“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford ~
I am seldom considered, though I do more to influence everything about you, than virtually any one thing in your life. I control the kind of job you have, your relationships, your mood, how people treat you, the outcome of everyday situations, your view on life, the way you are received and treated by others. Well, pretty much everything in your life. I can make you either happy or sad, loving or hateful, cheerful or remorseful, congenial or spiteful and in doing so, control the very capacity that you have for success.
No, you don’t often think of me except when you BLAME the problem I create on the shortcomings of others, or the state of the economy, or your family or a million other reasons. Often, unable to find anyone else to BLAME you look for shortcomings within yourself on which to lay the BLAME, but you never really give me a fleeting thought. Sigh!
When my impact on your life is fully considered in your every thought and action, when you are mindful of my awesome power, when you nurture and groom me for positive use in your life, I can become a magic force. My influence will spread to every person you come in contact with. Acknowledged and adjusted in a positive manner, I can easily turn your life around. There will be no person or obstacle that can stand in the way of my success, or fail to be impacted for the better. I am an amazing ally if you will choose to pay attention to me.
I am an extention of you. ‘I Am, Your Attitude’
Now consider these words and their opposites as attitudes:
Optimistic – Hopeless
Confident – Helpless
Happy – Miserable
We all know that in any given situation, we will act according to the way we feel. If you feel happy, positive, optimistic, confident, you will act according to the respective feelings. Right?
We also know that the outcome of any given situation is determined by our attitude. Certainly when we exhibit a positive, optimistic, confident attitude, people will enjoy being around us. They’re more inclined to go out of their way to help, to give information, to take time to assist us.
Conversely, if we have a negative, hopeless, helpless, miserable mindset, that is how we will act. When we exhibit these attitudes, we make people uncomfortable and they tend to withdraw from us, to make excuses for not being able to help and make every effort to avoid us. Admit it, when you act like this, you are not a pleasant company and soon you’ll see the “side effects” of your stinking thinking. This leads to us feeling even worse, snowballing into becoming a vicious cycle.
Who wants to live like that? I know you don’t. Certainly no one does it by choice, right? Or do they? How can I help not feeling the way I feel, you ask? I have no control over what happens and how I feel. NOT so. Remember Ford’s quote? Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right. YES. That is the power of your mind manifesting in an attitude.
Your thinking creates the way you feel, the way you speak, the way you act and ultimately the way you live. You are the master of your own life. Stop blaming everyone else and start taking responsibility.
I don’t know about you, but for me, in order to feel like I’m living, I have to keep growing., set goals and achieve them. Achieving those goals – losing weight, finding a better job, improving a relationship – is not just a matter of taking action. There are things we need to stop doing if we want to be successful. We need to stop overeating, stop procrastinating, stop getting worked up over things that really don’t matter, stop acting helpless. Above all we have to stop taking a negative stand and brutally extract the habit of saying I Can’t, from the root.
The key to adopting new habits, is to first rid yourself of old ones. Those are the real problem. In order to achieve that, we need strategies that actually work. Regardless of how much self-control you have – willpower alone is not going to accomplish your goal.
I will help you do that by exercising control over your thoughts and words. Starting now you will begin changing the way you think and speak. For an entire month, you will apply your will power to your mind and mouth. I will do this exercise with you.
The material I am using is inspired by Gregory Dickow’s “Fast from Wrong Thinking”. Check in every day and read the lesson, then apply it. I would love it if you left a comment letting me know how you’re doing. Share what you struggle with and any positive/negative experience you have. We will grow together.
See you tomorrow —